EXPERIENTIAL CONVERSATIONS – An Uncommon Lens

Each of the following presentations takes place on a Saturday and Sunday (11:00-1:00 EST). The cost of each 2-day presentation is $129. As we look in the mirror, and to our clients, these are the elements that arise again and again. More than diagnosis, they are aspects of a response vocabulary, which is often nested in the language of the generations.

Each presentation will be recorded. Participants will have access to the recording for three (3) weeks following the presentation dates. "If you register but cannot attend the full live presentation, you will still receive access for three weeks from the date of the class.  

Go Ask Your Father September 13-14, 2025

We would not be who we are without Father – stay-at-home dad or sperm donor or anything in between. And yet he did not carry us into life. His place is essential and peripheral. This natural paradox sometimes holds sway over an entire lifetime. How do we account for him, and do we? We may be on a secret quest to find him “out there” and “in here.” We may have never forged a relationship with him that wasn’t through her. We may not have the whole picture, including that he left because there wasn’t room for him to stay.  Together, we try to reveal more of the nuances of the sometimes-complex relationship between Father and children – and some of the ways deeper content shapes current connection.

Partners and Other Strangers October 25-26, 2025

Initially, we tend to connect through fragmentation. Whether with intimate loves or business partners, aspects of us sync up with aspects of them. And it can feel so real …because it is. It may not, however, be whole. In fact, orienting toward wholeness – our own burgeoning or theirs – may destroy the relationship.  Sometimes, these shifts were simply not part of the original agreement. Our first agreement may have said (usually between the lines): “I will remain small, dependent, and even incompetent.” Or, perhaps, “I will stay no matter how you treat me.” Or maybe, “I will be the big one who rescues you, when necessary, carries you when asked, and endlessly forgives you whatever happens.” Together, we’ll explore why relationships end – and how they begin.

Judgment Versus Movement November 15-16, 2025

Judgment is a word that multitasks. When it is “discernment,” it is a guide; when it is a way in the world, it sets parameters based on exclusion. When we judge as a matter of habit, we limit possibility. We judge rather than move. Cocooned in our angry little world, we miss out on expanding our sense of agency and feeling the fresh breeze of the emergent. Together, we’ll explore the lineage of this safety behavior, its consequences, and some alternatives.

Family Obligation and Resentment December 20-21, 2025 

Belonging is an instinct, an impulse toward survival. We learn its meaning in our family of origin alongside learning to communicate, to move on our own, and to be in the company of our important others. The problem is, those earliest lessons stick with us, and we struggle to learn vocabulary beyond them. When we say, “Okay, yes,” we resent it. When we say, “No, I won’t,” we are angry and afraid. Together, we’ll identify our original language and begin to expand our vocabulary.

When Indecision Decides January 24-25, 2026

When I can’t decide between the periwinkle and mauve, no big deal. When indecision is a lifestyle, then clarity, ease, and a sense of empowerment are sacrificed. Here’s your first prompt: Indecision is fear. It is fear disguised as not knowing. Here’s another prompt: Indecision is a decision. Together, we’ll consider the deeper meanings of indecision, including who wrote the dictionary. Together, we’ll explore what’s at stake – and what’s the incentive for change.

The Voices in My Head February 28-March 1, 2026

When you think of the “inner critic,” whose voice does it speak in? It once belonged to someone else, but was heard so often and so deeply, we can no longer tell it from our own. It is a voice from the past, which naturally overpowers the voice of the emergent. The critical parent, for example, is fearful. The reflex is to take on both the critique and the fear! 

Together, we’ll reveal the codependent voices that inhabit our nervous systems and begin to discriminate between those that are still tending to the past and those that are oriented to the future. 

The Good Child Syndrome April 18-19, 2026

The Good Child: This way of belonging is, perhaps, the most suffocating. It was never a choice;  it was bequeathed to us. It is situational – being everything to everyone or to someone – and it confines our growth to the needs of others. Naturally, growing up is growing out from the confines of what has already been. When we are tasked with being “good,” we are disallowed from learning anything new. Together, we’ll identify the trap of the “good child,” figure out why it was built, and begin to shape the keys to unlock it.

Free To Succeed May 9-10, 2026

Have you ever wondered why, despite your best efforts, you keep hitting the wall of possibility? Perhaps when you think you are moving forward, you are actually turning in the wrong direction. When our forebears’ dreams were thwarted by local (ie, the early death of a parent) or more global forces (ie, war, poverty, enslavement),  trust in what’s possible falls away and distrust becomes part of our inheritance. Sometimes we are still fighting to survive without realizing it. The need to stay hidden, angry, or lost may be tugging at our aspirations. Together, we will interrogate this underground landscape.